Headache or Brain Aneurysm?

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Yesterday, I received the phone call that I dread!  It’s the one that you get in the middle of the night – that wakes you from your sleep and makes you ask yourself where you are, because you are so disoriented.  It was my mom, telling me that my sister had to be airlifted to another town, after being diagnosed with a brain aneurysm and that it had ruptured with a lot of bleeding.  Yes, the symptoms were there.  How many of us have bad headaches and explain them away?

Yesterday, I spent most of the day trying not to think about things and finally realized last night that I wasn’t doing a very good job.  I had gone grocery shopping and had put everything away except two bags of things that needed to go in the freezer.  I asked my husband to do it and he said that the stuff wouldn’t fit.  I found myself SCREAMING about why I had to figure it out…As the words were coming out, I knew that it was frustration over the helpless feeling I had…of not being able to see my sister, hug her or even just to get a complete understanding of what was happening with her.   I cleared out the freezer, put things away and headed upstairs to my bedroom.

I posted a message to ask my friends and family to pray for my sister.  These are the times when it’s very difficult to live in another country, away from your family.  I was trying to study for a french test, but not have much luck studying and decided to go on FB instead and ask for prayers.  I typed the note, closed the computer, said a prayer and went to sleep.  When I woke up this morning, I was overwhelmed by the comments and messages of encouragement I received.  My niece, Ericka, (yes she is named after me:) said that she’s going to read them all to my sister when she wakes up in the morning.

So, I’ve learned a lot about an aneurysm in one day.   I hope the information I’ve gathered here from the Mayo Clinic will help someone who is explaining away those terrible headaches.  Here’s what I learned ( all material taken from http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/brain-aneurysm/DS00582)

**What is a brain aneurysm?

“A brain aneurysm (AN-u-rizm) is a bulge or ballooning in a blood vessel in the brain. It often looks like a berry hanging on a stem.

A brain aneurysm can leak or rupture, causing bleeding into the brain (hemorrhagic stroke). Most often a ruptured brain aneurysm occurs in the space between the brain and the thin tissues covering the brain. This type of hemorrhagic stroke is called a subarachnoid hemorrhage. A ruptured aneurysm quickly becomes life-threatening and requires prompt medical treatment.

Most brain aneurysms, however, don’t rupture, create health problems or cause symptoms. Such aneurysms are often detected during tests for other conditions. Treatment for an unruptured brain aneurysm may be appropriate in some cases and may prevent a rupture in the future.”

**What are the symptoms?

Ruptured aneurysm
A sudden, severe headache is the key symptom of a ruptured aneurysm. This headache is often described as the “worst headache” ever experienced. Common signs and symptoms of a ruptured aneurysm include:

  • Sudden, extremely severe headache
  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Stiff neck
  • Blurred or double vision
  • Sensitivity to light
  • Seizure
  • A drooping eyelid
  • Loss of consciousness
  • Confusion

‘Leaking’ aneurysm
In some cases, an aneurysm may leak a slight amount of blood. This leaking (sentinel bleed) may cause only a:

  • Sudden, extremely severe headache

A more severe rupture almost always follows leaking.

Unruptured aneurysm
An unruptured brain aneurysm may produce no symptoms, particularly if it’s small. However, a large unruptured aneurysm may press on brain tissues and nerves, possibly causing:

  • Pain above and behind an eye
  • A dilated pupil
  • Change in vision or double vision
  • Numbness, weakness or paralysis of one side of the face
  • A drooping eyelid

When to see a doctor
A ruptured aneurysm is a medical emergency. In about 30 percent of cases, ruptured brain aneurysms are fatal.

Seek immediate medical attention if you develop a:

  • Sudden, extremely severe headache

If you’re with someone who complains of a sudden, severe headache or who loses consciousness or has a seizure, call 911 or your local emergency number.

**What is the treatment for  a brain aneurysm?

Surgery
There are two common treatment options for a ruptured brain aneurysm.

  • Surgical clipping is a procedure to close off an aneurysm. The neurosurgeon removes a section of your skull to access the aneurysm and locates the blood vessel that feeds the aneurysm. Then he or she places a tiny metal clip on the neck of the aneurysm to stop blood flow to it.
  • Endovascular coiling is a less invasive procedure than surgical clipping. The surgeon inserts a hollow plastic tube (catheter) into an artery, usually in your groin, and threads it through your body to the aneurysm. He or she then uses a guide wire to push a soft platinum wire through the catheter and into the aneurysm. The wire coils up inside the aneurysm, disrupts the blood flow and causes blood to clot. This clotting essentially seals off the aneurysm from the artery.

Both procedures pose risks, particularly bleeding in the brain or loss of blood flow to the brain. The endovascular coil is less invasive and may be initially safer, but it also has a higher risk of subsequent re-bleeding, and additional procedures may be necessary. Your neurosurgeon will make a recommendation based on the size of the brain aneurysm, your ability to undergo surgery and other factors.

**AN UPDATE ON MY SISTER:

My sister had surgery yesterday.  She’s feeling pretty good.  She had the endovascular coiling procedure and it seems to have gone well.  Please keep praying that there are no complications and that there is no re-bleeding.

Thanks again everyone for your prayers and words of encouragement.  My niece says that my sisters eyes were watering as she told her about all the Facebook prayers.  From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for your prayers…

Ericka

First my iPhone, now this!!

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Tonight, I went to my favorite little chocolate store, in the rain.  Anyone who knows me well, knows how much I hate the rain when I’m wearing my hair straight!  In a very short period of time, it inflates and inflates and inflates!   I REALLY DO love Diana Ross, but that’s not the look I was going for today.   Anyway, it was dark out.  Stores were closing.  My umbrella is cheap.  I had 15 minutes to cover three stores.  You get the picture?  Somehow, in the hustle and bustle of it all, I dropped my wallet on the street…That was maybe an hour and a half ago.

Just now, someone rang my bell, which both startled and frightened me because my gate hadn’t been working properly.  I answered the intercom and the guy says that he found something of mine…Cautious and street-smart, I said – “What did you find?” – with my lips stuck out, eyes rolled and in my west-side of Chicago voice:)

He says, “your wallet.”  I frantically look in my purse and guess what?  No wallet!  Shmit!!!  So of course, I ask him to drive up to the house.  He does.  He gets out of his car in the pouring rain and says, “I own the Levis store in the Center of Waterloo and as I was leaving, I found your wallet sitting right there.”  I didn’t want to pry, but I could see that there were important things inside…

Two lessons I am taking from this:
1.  I have to slow down!!!  I’m just doing too dang-on much!  Last week, it was my iPhone, this week my wallet…feels like I’m gonna lose my mind next:)  Do me a favor, please! If you see me trying to be Supermom, please tell me that it’s not necessary.  Please tell me that my kids will be fine if I don’t go out in the pouring rain to get chocolate…
2.  The bigger lesson is that there are still good people out there.  I had just gotten money from the ATM and was carrying multiple cards, drivers license, National ID card, etc.  Thank you Mr. Levi Store Owner – Can you believe that I didn’t even get his name??  At Christmas time, these are the people who make our lives complete.

I’m glad I got the chocolate.  I’m happy that I met Mr. Levi Store man….and most of all, I feel so fortunate that God continues to place GREAT people in my life.  Tomorrow, I promise to pay it forward…

I am thankful for young love that hasn’t gotten old…

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I have so many reasons to be thankful, but today two stick out among them all.

1. I have a mom who I can literally call at any time of the day or night and she is always excited to hear my voice.  Although we speak almost daily, she always has so many things to tell me and to make me laugh.  There is never, ever a dull conversation. Yes, there are times when she tells me the same story multiple times, but it just keeps getting funnier.   I wish every girl had a mom that has so much to give.  If, by chance you don’t, feel free to call my mom, she makes everyone laugh, not just her own kids, but everyone with whom she comes in contact.  If you have a good spirit, she will love you.  If you don’t…well, that’s another story (haha!)  Ironically, the whole neighborhood, family and friends –  all call her “Mother.”  Thank you God for letting her be my “Mother.”

The woman who keeps me smiling! She is hilarious!

2.  As I lay me down to sleep, I thank God for:  young love that hasn’t gotten old.  I was always raised that the only rock that I could really count on was God.  I was taught that faith the size of a mustard seed would take me far in life; that when people failed me, God wouldn’t; that Jesus was my doctor and he writes all my prescriptions; that he would make a way out of no way; that I’d rather have Jesus than silver and gold; that he is the way, the truth and the life…so marriage for me was with reservation, because in my mind, no man could ever measure up to such an amazing heavenly father. But I also learned that God takes care of his children…

He sent me a great friend, an inspirational man, a loving husband, a wonderful father and most of all, he sent me one of his children…Thank you God, for young love that hasn’t gotten old and for a mom that, although she is growing old, she manages to keep my heart young, with laughter!

Young love that hasn’t gotten old!:)

Happy Thanksgiving to all my family and friends.  Although I may not see you often, please know that I am thankful for you, today and always.  Good Night!Happy Thanksgiving!

Since I was a little girl…

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I dreamed of going to Africa and finally, I made it there.  What made it even more special is that I got to share this awesome experience with my daughter on her 13th birthday!    I can’t begin to explain the the emotions I felt, being there and really getting an understanding of the culture and a better understanding of who I am.  I always thought that I was a hard-worker, but being in Africa and seeing just how hard people work brings a whole new meaning to the term, “hard work.”

The people were hospitable and kind, inviting and warm.  They welcomed us with open arms, explained things we didn’t understand and made us feel right at home.  We stayed in a hut, but really it was no different than our home in the US or our home here in Belgium.  It was nice.  It was extremely comfortable.  It was clean.  It had everything we needed and more.  Most important, it had love and family – and at the end of the day, THAT is all that matters!

Both my daughter and I left with a greater appreciation for the mark we can make in this world.  There are so many things we could be doing and so many people that we could be helping that we aren’t.  I left with a renewed sense of purpose.   My life shall have greater meaning…  I wish I could share all 2,000 pictures that I took, but instead I chose to post just a few!  Hopefully you will enjoy these pictures and the birthday video at the end of this post!

That’s one more thing off my bucket list…can’t wait to show you what’s next!

She will never be too big for me to hug her!

Inside the daughter’s hut! How pretty!

What a beautiful hut! This was built by the family and is for the husband and wife. Each child has his own hut, which they share with grandparents when  they visit.

Not a site you see often…talking on a phone with a cow in the background.

My daughter got to spend the day at a school in Kenya. She loved it! What a good experience for her to see their work ethic…and what nice kids!

Saying Goodbye!

Just love this picture…

Too close for comfort!

Pink Flamingo Land!

My daughter’s new favorite animal! Their beauty is striking!

The blueist bird I've ever seen!

Chimps are so smart! He was really posing for me!

We drove really close and definitely on the road less traveled low to get this shot!

One of my favorite shots!

Postcard perfect!

Another pose!

Going Safarai-ing!

Ready for a Safari!

Feeling right at home!

I’ve never seen a cat and dog get along so well!

One of our gracious hosts...

I really do not like mud!:)

Outside view of the hut we stayed in.

The daughter of the family we stayed with – she volunteers at a disabled children’s home. The kids were so sweet…wish I could bring them all home.

Our gracious host!  Enoa’s birthday dinner was perfect!

Singing a little Bob Marley for Enoa’s birthday!

This time for Africa!

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A couple of weeks ago, my daughter hosted a fundraiser to benefit Autism Europe.  It was well-attended and she managed to raise over 2,700 Euros; that’s over 3,000 American dollars!  My husband and I were very proud of her!  What’s even better is that she and her sister ran the entire show without our help.  Neither my husband nor I  said a word during the whole show and it went off without a hitch!My daughter and her friend were Masters of Cermonies!

During the show, three middle school girls performed a dance to Shakira’s “Waka-Waka” and as they performed, I could feel myself getting into the groove and I felt so proud of them!  They seemed to come alive as they danced to the chorus, “This time for A-fri-ca!”  The strange thing is that so did I!  I asked myself, why haven’t I been to Africa?” and quite honestly, I had no response…

The three older girls in the back inspired me to think “Africa!” with their inspiring performance of Waka-Waka!

One short week later, I found myself in Paris, in a neighborhood, commonly referred to as “Little Africa” with seven of my friends and again, I felt right at home!  You can’t imagine how excited I was to see conditioner for black hair!!!  Let’s just say that I got distracted at the beauty supply store and lost the group for about 20 minutes.  Fast forward another week and I found myself in a lovely neighborhood in Belgium called Matongé, yet another reminder of the fact that I have never visited the motherland!

And so, the timing just seems right…It’s time for “A-fri-ca!”  My husband had the best idea!  In two weeks,  my older daughter and I will travel to Africa for her 13th birthday.  We are both so excited to have a mother/daughter bonding trip.  I am especially happy because this is a first for the both of us and we will get to experience it together!
I’ll be able to scratch this off my bucket list in just two weeks!  I’m so excited and humbled by God’s grace.

While in Matongé, a neighborhood inhabited by large numbers of African immigrants, we revealed to our daughter, where she would be visiting for her 13th birthday! What a special moment!

Writing My Bucket List!

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Since my one year time frame for my blog was up on my birthday (July 30th), I thought I’d get a break by not writing and that my days would be freed up to live just a little bit more…The truth is that I miss it.  I have said many times that writing keeps me grounded.  Since I stopped writing, I feel like I start each day with a list of things to do and barely get anything done!  I’m going in circles and losing my mind!  I think it’s because when I write, I keep myself on task and I can clearly see what I have done and what I still want to accomplish.  When I posted last, I wrote about creating a “bucket list” for the year.  I’ve started that list and will add to it as the days go by!  HERE IT IS!  If you see something that interests you or you’d like to help me achieve, please post your reply below and maybe we can do it together!?

http://bucketlist.org/list/livingoutloud365/

Gabby Douglas’ hair – What’s all the fuss about?!

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Hair has always been a sore subject of conversation in the black community.  As African-American women, we’ve always struggled with how to wear our hair:  straight, natural, dreds, short, mohawks, ponytails, braids, etc.   The recent debate about Gabby Douglas’ hair, however, has gone too far.    This young girl has made history as the first African-American gymnast to bring home an All-Around Gold Medal and a Team Gold Medal and only the second African-American gymnast to represent the U.S. in HISTORY.   So, when I read some of the tweets about her hair, I absolutely couldn’t believe it.

I know that some of these comments are meant to be “funny” and are not meant to hurt Gabby, but I do think they are a testament to how we should NOT use social media.  Seriously, hair is the last thing she should be concerned about. Her only goal should be to pin it down as tight and comfortably as she can, so it doesn’t distract her in her during her events.  If she chooses to go all out with her hair, that should be her choice, too…

Thanks to Gabby, little girls everywhere now believe that the Olympics are within their reach…

 

My daughter is an eight year old gymnast who has spent anywhere from 12-18 hours per week in thegym, training.  She doesn’t have many girls who look like her – to look up to…When Gabby Douglas came along, however, she inspired a generation of girls to follow in her footsteps.  To think that such an amazing accomplishment by Gabby Douglas is somehow being tainted by how she chooses to wear her hair, yields me speechless.

 

 

 

Source: nydailynews.com

To all the folks that are tweeting negative comments, posting them on FB, etc about this amazing girl, do you really understand what you are doing?  Do you know the effort it takes to flip on a beam that’s less than four inches wide?  Do you know the dedication it must take for this young girl to leave everything familiar behind, to train in a place far away from home?  Do you have any idea how distracting your words are?  Yes, she’s tough as nails, but she’s still a kid!  In this day of social media and cyber-bullying, do you really expect that she doesn’t hear your words and that they don’t hurt?

Perhaps in the future, coaches will limit competitors’ access to social media during the Olympic Games.  I hope that she doesn’t have any further access to social media during these games.  I know that people joke all the time about good hair, bad hair, “beady-beads”, etc., but at some point, enough is enough!   She is so much more than her hair!  My challenge to those of you with the “funny, lol, lmfao” comments is this:

Don’t be yourself – be someone a little nicer.”  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook, 1966